How To Talk To Women

How To Talk To Women

Have you ever had trouble when you talk to women? To talk to women can be daunting at times, especially when you feel you haven’t anything exciting or interesting to talk about. Most men feel anxiety when they start to talk to a beautiful woman they just met. This is completely normal, and should be expected when you begin to talk to women. The best thing you can do is relax. That’s first.

This feeling of anxiety usually begins as a numb feeling in your stomach which quickly escalates to your head. You talk but the words come out that don’t seem interesting or engaging, so you start doubting your abilities as a conversationalist. Then, you start asking question after question, and she seems to respond with less and less detail, eventually getting back to just one or two word responses.

You: So where did you get those sunglasses?
Her: Huh? Oh… Gucci (as her eyes roll, and then try to locate her friends)
You: Ummm… so where did you say you were from again?

If you don’t stop this downward momentum quickly, she’s going to leave. And soon enough, the conversation has taken a detour to the point of no return.

This situation usually concludes with awkward silence, and her burning words…

“Well, I guess I better get back to my friends.”

This isn’t how you should talk to women, and it doesn’t have to be.
How You Should Talk To Women

We blew it that conversation. You need to understand a few things when you first start to talk to women. First, in many circumstances this isn’t your fault. Women are often preoccupied, in an unsocial mood, drunk, or just plain mean. Don’t let this stop you from searching out beautiful women that you can talk to.

Here is the secret when you talk to women:


When you have a backup plan, its like a conversational map with directions to your goal of getting a date, a number, or moving to another location. Odds are in your favor when you have a predictable and realistic goal when you talk with women. You don’t wuss out of at least trying to reach your goal. Because of this you can also steer clear of any foreseeable problems caused by you (like running out of things to say). Even with your plan, don’t let your initial conversation sound like a job interview. This is incredibly boring, and predictable.

Always view your conversation from a 3rd party’s perspective, and if you don’t like what you hear, change it up. If you do feel the conversation heading south, quickly have one thing to say or do that will make your save and continue on as if you weren’t going down.

Something like:

“Oh, that reminds me of (some random story) ”
“What’s the story behind (something they’re wearing thats interesting or unusual)”
“What’s your opinion on (something nearby that might be controversial)”

For some really good ad lib skills, try watching Curb Your Enthusiasm, in which the main character Larry David always brings up random and funny things to discuss.

A fail safe technique is to make generalizations about women to keep the conversation spicy and interesting to her. For some reason women go crazy for it.

“Oh you (name city) girls… from what I hear (wait two seconds) TROUBLE.”
Don’t Do This When You Talk To Women

There are a few topic never to bring up when you begin to talk to women. Some topics might include: overt sex talk, politics, social problems (poverty, immigration) and religion. All other topics seem to be great, and most of those forbidden topics can be addressed but only with care and definitely not within the first five or so dates.

Never supplicate in actions or when you talk to a woman. Never ASK permission to do things, instead LEAD (Only when a woman refuses should you stop, not just casual disapproval). Never be too physical or not physical enough. Try and get a good balance, occasional touches on the elbow or small of her back are welcomed. This should help you start to talk to women in a more interesting way.

One of the best ways to talk to women is through the technique known as cocky and funny. It’s a powerful sense of humor combined with a slight arrogance that drives women crazy! Learn about cocky and funny and other powerful conversational techniques in the bestselling ebook Double Your Dating.