How To Talk To Women

How To Talk To Women

Have you ever had trouble when you talk to women? To talk to women can be daunting at times, especially when you feel you haven’t anything exciting or interesting to talk about. Most men feel anxiety when they start to talk to a beautiful woman they just met. This is completely normal, and should be expected when you begin to talk to women. The best thing you can do is relax. That’s first.

This feeling of anxiety usually begins as a numb feeling in your stomach which quickly escalates to your head. You talk but the words come out that don’t seem interesting or engaging, so you start doubting your abilities as a conversationalist. Then, you start asking question after question, and she seems to respond with less and less detail, eventually getting back to just one or two word responses.

You: So where did you get those sunglasses?
Her: Huh? Oh… Gucci (as her eyes roll, and then try to locate her friends)
You: Ummm… so where did you say you were from again?

If you don’t stop this downward momentum quickly, she’s going to leave. And soon enough, the conversation has taken a detour to the point of no return.

This situation usually concludes with awkward silence, and her burning words…

“Well, I guess I better get back to my friends.”

This isn’t how you should talk to women, and it doesn’t have to be.
How You Should Talk To Women

We blew it that conversation. You need to understand a few things when you first start to talk to women. First, in many circumstances this isn’t your fault. Women are often preoccupied, in an unsocial mood, drunk, or just plain mean. Don’t let this stop you from searching out beautiful women that you can talk to.

Here is the secret when you talk to women:

HAVE A BACKUP PLAN

When you have a backup plan, its like a conversational map with directions to your goal of getting a date, a number, or moving to another location. Odds are in your favor when you have a predictable and realistic goal when you talk with women. You don’t wuss out of at least trying to reach your goal. Because of this you can also steer clear of any foreseeable problems caused by you (like running out of things to say). Even with your plan, don’t let your initial conversation sound like a job interview. This is incredibly boring, and predictable.

Always view your conversation from a 3rd party’s perspective, and if you don’t like what you hear, change it up. If you do feel the conversation heading south, quickly have one thing to say or do that will make your save and continue on as if you weren’t going down.

Something like:

“Oh, that reminds me of (some random story) ”
“What’s the story behind (something they’re wearing thats interesting or unusual)”
“What’s your opinion on (something nearby that might be controversial)”

For some really good ad lib skills, try watching Curb Your Enthusiasm, in which the main character Larry David always brings up random and funny things to discuss.

A fail safe technique is to make generalizations about women to keep the conversation spicy and interesting to her. For some reason women go crazy for it.

“Oh you (name city) girls… from what I hear (wait two seconds) TROUBLE.”
Don’t Do This When You Talk To Women

There are a few topic never to bring up when you begin to talk to women. Some topics might include: overt sex talk, politics, social problems (poverty, immigration) and religion. All other topics seem to be great, and most of those forbidden topics can be addressed but only with care and definitely not within the first five or so dates.

Never supplicate in actions or when you talk to a woman. Never ASK permission to do things, instead LEAD (Only when a woman refuses should you stop, not just casual disapproval). Never be too physical or not physical enough. Try and get a good balance, occasional touches on the elbow or small of her back are welcomed. This should help you start to talk to women in a more interesting way.

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How To Get A Girlfriend

How To Get A Girlfriend

To get a girlfriend is one of the hardest accomplishments for many men, even pickup artists. So the question remains, how do you get a girlfriend? If you’ve yet to meet women, you should do that first. This guide is for guys or pickup artists who are casually involved with a woman and want them as their girlfriend. Because hey, once you meet a cool woman, you should learn how to keep her.

Step 1: How To Get A Girlfriend

First, you must understand that what works with pickup, does not necessarily work when you want a girlfriend. You should understand that on the whole, you need to be less “jerky” and more understanding in a few areas. I’m not advocating turning into a wuss and doing everything your girlfriend wants, far from it. I’m saying, if you want a girlfriend, you should start doing the things that a girlfriend expects. Share more feelings with her, open up with her on a less superficial level, and spend more time pleasing her into the bedroom than just yourself. A quote from Neil Strauss, “If you want a woman to be your girlfriend, then make sure she has a constant supply of orgasms. If you’re missing that, then your girlfriend will likely leave soon.”

Step 2: How To Get A Girlfriend

Second, you should definitely start involving her with other parts of your life. If you start seeing a woman three or more times a week you should realize that she might expect more than just a casual hookup. This is in your court, so don’t make the mistake of saying “shes getting real clingy” when you’ve clearly been giving her those signals yourself. When you start to invite her to activities with your family, friends or work, you should realize that you are sending this woman signals that you want her to be your girlfriend.

Step 3: How To Get A Girlfriend

Third, you should now start putting off the vibe that she’s more important to you than before. If you want a woman to be your girlfriend, start treating her the way a woman should be treated in public. There’s no harm in being honest, and this is actually a super alpha male trait. By being honest with her, by saying something like, “I think you’re great. If I play my cards right, you’ll trick me into having you as my girlfriend.” (With a BIG smile) Gauge the interactions, you can usually feel when a commitment of some sort is about to hit the fan.

Lastly, be mellow about the whole situation. Never act clingy – this is a unattractive quality that comes from scarcity and jealously. Let her bring up the girlfriend situation by herself. Trust me, if you’re providing value to her life, she’ll want to be your girlfriend. Give this at least a few months of dating, and never be predictable during that time. Follow the basic rules of pickup, until you’re ready for the commitment of having her as your girlfriend. Then when you’re ready come back and follow these rules to get a girlfriend.

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Does It Ever Fizzle Out After A Great Pickup

Does It Ever Fizzle Out After A Great Pickup?

I’m Nick Savoy, and I run Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) and if you feel a solid “pickup” slipping away, keep these three rules handy.

SECRET #1: Bait, don’t chase

When a woman seems to be slipping away, most guys (at least most guys who don’t know Love Systems) will chase her harder. She didn’t answer the last text? Call her! Phone calls are short? Ask her out!

It’s logical, but counter-productive.

You want her to invest her time and emotional energy in you. But once you’ve asked her a couple of times, continuing to push the same offer on her will make her want it (and you) LESS.

It’s the same with any kind of investment. Let’s say your friend Joe wants you to invest in his new business. You keep dodging the question but Joe keeps asking or hinting at it. The more he does this, the more SURE you are that you don’t want to invest. And after a while, you stop answering Joe’s calls because you smell his agenda a mile away.

A BETTER WAY

What if Joe recognized that you didn’t want to invest. Instead of pressuring you, he backed off, talked about other things, and only casually once in a while referred to his business but without asking you for anything. It sounds like it’s doing well, and one day he invites you to drop by and visit.

Well, you can do that can’t you? And if you liked what you saw, what’s going to happen next? You’ll probably ask HIM if he’s interested in more investors. Just like a beautiful woman will often start hinting at date opportunities and places to meet up when you’ve got some emotional momentum going.

The first key is to LOWER THE INVESTMENT LEVEL YOU ARE ASKING OF HER. There are many ways to do this, depending on the situation, but here are some of the big ones:
# Texts instead of phone calls
# Light, fun conversation instead of serious topics
# Conversation for the sake of it alone instead of making plans
# Shorter rather than longer phone calls (and text messages)

In summary – take a step back, make sure she’s with you, and then start going forward and building momentum again… together.

SECRET #2: Be in the moment

Tell me if this story sounds familiar. You met a woman you’re interested in. She is all over you, insists you take her number, promises to make you dinner this weekend and implies that she might be the desert…

… but it’s not that same girl when (if?) you get her on the phone. She’s actually busy this weekend and doesn’t suggest another date.

Well, that’s not fair, is it?

Darn right it isn’t. Before I learned Love Systems and changed my life around, this used to get me so frustrated. Sometimes I’d even call the girl and ask what the heck happened. (There’s no point doing that either.)

To explain what’s going on and what to do, I’m going to take you on a little detour.

I love playing board games. It’s a very nerdy hobby – I’m not talking about games people know, like Trivial Pursuit or Monopoly. I’m talking about games no one has heard of – detailed games re-fighting ancient wars, and so on.

(Obviously, this isn’t something most women can relate to. But, it’s my hobby and I’m passionate about it. Since women are attracted by emotion, not logic (you should know this), the average swimsuit model will genuinely prefer to hear me passionately talk about board games and why I love them more than Mr. Generic boring her droning on about his cars and money. Like Love Systems expert Mr. M wrote recently that she feels what you feel. I’ll take passionate over bored any day.)

Anyway… there’s one game I used to play a lot called Diplomacy. It’s a game of negotiation, betrayal, and intrigue, with a bit of military strategy thrown in. I used to be fairly good, but not great. At tournaments, I’d often get to the “final table” (the top seven players, since it’s a seven-player game) and just as often be one of the first players eliminated.

Almost ten years ago, at the World Boardgaming Championships (yes, it does exist), I deliberately got a previous year’s champion drunk so he’d tell me my flaw. See, one of the lessons I learned in school from a Goldman Sachs guest lecturer was “Alcohol Works.” I stick with good advice wherever I find it.

My flaw? Not strategy. Not tactics. Not negotiation.

Optimistic self-delusion.

He told me he could pull the wool over my eyes by figuring out what it was that I wanted to believe, and then use that against me while he prepared to stab me in the back. If I was playing France and I really wanted to believe that my English ally wasn’t about to attack me, then I’d believe just about any explanation the English player would give me… Before he stuck the knife in.

“Play the board as it is, not how you want it to be.”

Board games are silly, but the lesson isn’t. It’s funny how many times I’ve repeated that exact phrase without anyone asking where or what this “board” was about. But the meaning is clear, and very applicable to Love Systems.

The woman you want was all over you last night? That was last turn. Board’s changed.

A woman is in your neighborhood and wants to come over tonight after being standoffish for weeks? Board’s changed. Tomorrow she might not want to. You’ll get nowhere by saying “but last night you wanted to,” at least no further than I’d get in a Diplomacy game saying “but last turn you didn’t have an army next to Paris.”

SECRET #3: Know Your Moves

The great thing about Love Systems being “bottom up” – we start by figuring out what works and only THEN put theories and structure on top of it – is that literally every part of attracting beautiful women can be made easier.

So, even with something as specific as how to get a girl who has drifted way back in the orbit, there’s a body of Love Systems knowledge. There are even a bunch of specific texts and things to say on the phone in the Phone and Text Game chapter of the Love Systems Routines Manual.

But I’ll give you a classic one, right now, with my compliments:

“I just met your twin.”

This works whether you haven’t talked in months or whether you just want to spark some energy. It doesn’t require major investment on her part. It implies that you are meeting other women and if some of them are similar to her and responding to you, maybe she should make her move now before you get away.

This is something impossible to say directly and difficult to convey… which makes this such a powerful text.

It’s a strange phenomenon, but women are more interested in you if they know that other women are interested in you too. We call this “Pre-selection” and it is one of the eight basic ways to attract beautiful women. This was first explained in my book, Magic Bullets (Magic Bullets Review), and then discussed in our Interview Series volumes Introduction to Attraction (Savoy and The Don), Identity (Tenmagnet, Sinn, and Future), and Female Psychology (Savoy and Soul).

Whether you already have a set of go-to moves that work all the time for you or whether you are using the phone and text game routines from Volume 2 of the Love Systems Routines Manual (Routines Manual Review), make sure you track your results!

The ideas and strategies that work – those are your moves. That’s how you’ll learn.

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