Tighten Up Your Text Game

Tighten Up Your Text Game

When text messaging keep in mind that, just like in face to face encounters with a woman, there are rules to know and follow.

Rule 1: Don’t text to avoid phone conversation.

Many guys, especially those just entering the social arts, see texting as a safer arena for contacting woman than calling them. This is understandable, but unacceptable. If you’ve just met and number closed a woman, then your next goal is to have a day two. The likelihood that you will set this up with her via text message is lower than if you call her and build more comfort verbally.

Also, if you’re texting because of your fear of interacting with this woman, then how will you ever hope to interact with her comfortably face to face?

Rule 2: Do not seek value when texting, bring it.

Examples of value seeking texts are “What’s up?” or “What are you doing tonight?” These texts come off as needy, invoke no emotion in the woman you are contacting, and don’t portray anything about your personality.

Here are some sample texts I’ve sent that have proven to be much more effective…

“I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you.”

“Hey dork! :) I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today.”

“What do you call a fish with no eyes?” Wait for her response before giving the answer, “Fssshhh.”

Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!

She might be the only thing on your mind at the moment but let’s keep that a secret between us, otherwise you may freak her out. Text once and only once until you get a reply, then you may text back. If she doesn’t respond to your text, you should generally hold off until tomorrow before contacting her again.

Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.

When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.

Bonus Texting Tip: Use texts to invoke the law of familiarity.

After getting her number, immediately send a text while you’re still standing right next to her. This situation by itself is humorous and if you send a funny message it’s doubly so. Try messages like…

“You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day.”

“Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?”

If, after texting her, she saves you number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer.

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Approach Anxiety No More

Approach Anxiety No More!

Some of you email me and tell me how it’s so painful to go and talk to women (or to men). Do you want to know about real pain?

I basically relived the movie “Marathon Man” the other day. For those of you who don’t know this movie, go to YouTube and watch a clip so you can see what I experienced the other day at the dentist.

For all of you regular readers, you know I nicknamed my dentist “The Driller,” and nicknamed her assistant “The Cutter.” The other day I was fortunate enough to have an infection in some recent dental work that The Driller had done.

We didn’t know it until the Novocaine started to wear off and I felt every bit of the drilling. We thought that some more Novocaine would help, but all that did was to make my heart go thump thump a little faster. It didn’t make the nerve in my tooth calm down at all.

So approaching the opposite sex is not painful. You’re not going to jump out of your skin. You’re not going to hear a drill in your head. You’re not going to get bad taste in your mouth from Novocaine.

Recently I launched a great product about how to get rid of approach anxiety. What I should have done was to take my video guy to The Driller with me and had him film the 25 minutes of drilling I endured without being numb.

If I can survive that, then you can certainly walk up to the hottest person you see today, smile and say hello. What’s the worst thing that could happen? You’re not going to jump out of your skin. Really you’re not going to feel any pain at all except the fears you’ve associated with doing it.

My new product is a much easier way to overcome your fear approaching the opposite sex. If you’re not on my email list, you won’t be able to get this product. So if you want it, click here.

For those of you who really want to overcome your fear of approaching, go to your dentist when you have a really deep cavity you need to have filled — one that requires them to drill for a good 15 minutes — and videotape it as you have them drill without giving you any Novocaine. Then the next time you are tempted to complain about the pain you experience approaching the opposite sex, we can show you the video so you can see what real fear and pain is.
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Don’t Change For Me

Don’t Change For Me

Today’s blog is going to get you really thinking. Let me ask you a question: Are you lazy when you are in a relationship? I am not talking about a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

I am talking about in your relationship with yourself. Do you get lazy with yourself?

When I say ‘lazy with yourself,’ what I mean is do you know you have something about yourself you want to change but you don’t change it due to fear or laziness?

Do you realize that there is a negative connotation to the word change? Whether it was your mother, your grandmother, your father or your favorite aunt, somebody probably told you never to change for anyone (and that people should like you just as you are).

We’ve heard that over and over again throughout our entire existence. We’ve heard “don’t change for anyone” and “people will love you just the way you are.”

Well, do you know what I say to those things? Wrong!

I truly believe that change is good. Change is strong. Change is positive. Change is necessary!

Say you meet someone and get into a relationship. People will tell you not to change your core. You know what? You had better change your core. It’s called growing.

To me, change means growth. It means that as a human being, I am evolving more deeply than I ever have before. It means I am evolving in ways I never thought I would evolve. I’m experiencing new things, new feeling and new emotions.

Change is great, but we have such a negative association to the word. You cannot change a person, but you can show them how to grow. When someone doesn’t want to grow and make changes, that is a person who is going to miss out on a lot in life.

I am very different than what I was 22 years ago. I want to constantly keep evolving.

Perhaps if we used the word “evolve” instead of “change,” more people would be open to it. Everyone needs to get rid of the negative connotation to the word change.

When you’re in a relationship with yourself or with someone else, you should not ever change for someone but you should evolve with them (and for them). When you evolve, you grow.

When you refuse to change, you become stagnant. When you are stagnant, you get the same lousy relationships with yourself and with other people over and over again.

It’s something that all of us need to learn. We need to learn how to embrace growth and change, because it’s a wonderful thing.

Think about it in sports terms. Look at Eric Mangini. He is a terrible coach because he hasn’t changed his ways at all. He’s young. He’s stupid.

He acts like he wants to be Bill Belichick. He thinks he is Bill Belichick, but yet he hasn’t learned, grown, or changed his losing attitude. He’s carried his same losing ways from the Jets to Cleveland.

In life, you must learn from experiences and change. Change is good. Change means evolving. Change means that you are willing to see things through the eyes of another person.

All of us have messages for each other. I am just a messenger for a lot of you, here to teach you some lessons. The lesson this time? Realize how powerful change can be.

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