Approach Anxiety No More

Approach Anxiety No More!

Some of you email me and tell me how it’s so painful to go and talk to women (or to men). Do you want to know about real pain?

I basically relived the movie “Marathon Man” the other day. For those of you who don’t know this movie, go to YouTube and watch a clip so you can see what I experienced the other day at the dentist.

For all of you regular readers, you know I nicknamed my dentist “The Driller,” and nicknamed her assistant “The Cutter.” The other day I was fortunate enough to have an infection in some recent dental work that The Driller had done.

We didn’t know it until the Novocaine started to wear off and I felt every bit of the drilling. We thought that some more Novocaine would help, but all that did was to make my heart go thump thump a little faster. It didn’t make the nerve in my tooth calm down at all.

So approaching the opposite sex is not painful. You’re not going to jump out of your skin. You’re not going to hear a drill in your head. You’re not going to get bad taste in your mouth from Novocaine.

Recently I launched a great product about how to get rid of approach anxiety. What I should have done was to take my video guy to The Driller with me and had him film the 25 minutes of drilling I endured without being numb.

If I can survive that, then you can certainly walk up to the hottest person you see today, smile and say hello. What’s the worst thing that could happen? You’re not going to jump out of your skin. Really you’re not going to feel any pain at all except the fears you’ve associated with doing it.

My new product is a much easier way to overcome your fear approaching the opposite sex. If you’re not on my email list, you won’t be able to get this product. So if you want it, click here.

For those of you who really want to overcome your fear of approaching, go to your dentist when you have a really deep cavity you need to have filled — one that requires them to drill for a good 15 minutes — and videotape it as you have them drill without giving you any Novocaine. Then the next time you are tempted to complain about the pain you experience approaching the opposite sex, we can show you the video so you can see what real fear and pain is.
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Don’t Change For Me

Don’t Change For Me

Today’s blog is going to get you really thinking. Let me ask you a question: Are you lazy when you are in a relationship? I am not talking about a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

I am talking about in your relationship with yourself. Do you get lazy with yourself?

When I say ‘lazy with yourself,’ what I mean is do you know you have something about yourself you want to change but you don’t change it due to fear or laziness?

Do you realize that there is a negative connotation to the word change? Whether it was your mother, your grandmother, your father or your favorite aunt, somebody probably told you never to change for anyone (and that people should like you just as you are).

We’ve heard that over and over again throughout our entire existence. We’ve heard “don’t change for anyone” and “people will love you just the way you are.”

Well, do you know what I say to those things? Wrong!

I truly believe that change is good. Change is strong. Change is positive. Change is necessary!

Say you meet someone and get into a relationship. People will tell you not to change your core. You know what? You had better change your core. It’s called growing.

To me, change means growth. It means that as a human being, I am evolving more deeply than I ever have before. It means I am evolving in ways I never thought I would evolve. I’m experiencing new things, new feeling and new emotions.

Change is great, but we have such a negative association to the word. You cannot change a person, but you can show them how to grow. When someone doesn’t want to grow and make changes, that is a person who is going to miss out on a lot in life.

I am very different than what I was 22 years ago. I want to constantly keep evolving.

Perhaps if we used the word “evolve” instead of “change,” more people would be open to it. Everyone needs to get rid of the negative connotation to the word change.

When you’re in a relationship with yourself or with someone else, you should not ever change for someone but you should evolve with them (and for them). When you evolve, you grow.

When you refuse to change, you become stagnant. When you are stagnant, you get the same lousy relationships with yourself and with other people over and over again.

It’s something that all of us need to learn. We need to learn how to embrace growth and change, because it’s a wonderful thing.

Think about it in sports terms. Look at Eric Mangini. He is a terrible coach because he hasn’t changed his ways at all. He’s young. He’s stupid.

He acts like he wants to be Bill Belichick. He thinks he is Bill Belichick, but yet he hasn’t learned, grown, or changed his losing attitude. He’s carried his same losing ways from the Jets to Cleveland.

In life, you must learn from experiences and change. Change is good. Change means evolving. Change means that you are willing to see things through the eyes of another person.

All of us have messages for each other. I am just a messenger for a lot of you, here to teach you some lessons. The lesson this time? Realize how powerful change can be.

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Learning To Be Funny To Attract Women

Learning To Be Funny To Attract Women

It’s a hard deal learning to be “funny”. Women love it though. On their online dating profiles, near every single one says “I need a guy with a sense of humor”. It’s true, they want it. But you need keep a balance between humor, sexual tension and being quiet…

For me personally, I’ve always been relatively funny guy. I haven’t needed much guidance in this area. However, I did need to make my jokes and improv much more concise and less… attention-seeking. Seem strange? How can someone be out their to make people laugh and not an attention whore? Well, it takes practice, and not trying too hard.

So I did three things:


1. Read Comedy Writing Secrets
This book might be one of the most valuable reads I’ve done. You get funnier just be reading it. No joke. Seriously.

2. Watch Funny Shows
This might not be a stretch for many people, and it wasn’t for me. Depending on your existing “type” of natural humor that you have, consider watching the opposite kind if you find your humor to be too extreme in one way. My friend was all over self-depreciating humor. He had it down. So, I told him to watch It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia, which is much more arrogant, cocky, and the cast are in their own world. If you’re naturally arrogant, then try something more subtle like the Colbert Report, the Office is also good for situational humor. Watch and learn, don’t watch and zone out.

3. Get Over Yourself
The first thing a improv comedian told me, is that you need to “get over yourself”. Don’t worry about the consequences, just roll with them if they turn “bad”. Most of the time people are so self-absorbed that if the joke doesn’t hit, they don’t hold it against you. If you are not awkward about your joke, then typically they only remember the funny ones.

One of the best things you can do – and you’ve heard it a hundred times – is to take an improv class. This sharpens your senses and in the moment reflexes.

Humor is a valuable tool in seduction, and I’ve barely scratched the surface. A good tool, that I bought early on, to learn humor as it applies to flirting is in the Cocky Comedy (cocky and funny) program that David DeAngelo released.

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