Don’t Change For Me
Today’s blog is going to get you really thinking. Let me ask you a question: Are you lazy when you are in a relationship? I am not talking about a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
I am talking about in your relationship with yourself. Do you get lazy with yourself?
When I say ‘lazy with yourself,’ what I mean is do you know you have something about yourself you want to change but you don’t change it due to fear or laziness?
Do you realize that there is a negative connotation to the word change? Whether it was your mother, your grandmother, your father or your favorite aunt, somebody probably told you never to change for anyone (and that people should like you just as you are).
We’ve heard that over and over again throughout our entire existence. We’ve heard “don’t change for anyone” and “people will love you just the way you are.”
Well, do you know what I say to those things? Wrong!
I truly believe that change is good. Change is strong. Change is positive. Change is necessary!
Say you meet someone and get into a relationship. People will tell you not to change your core. You know what? You had better change your core. It’s called growing.
To me, change means growth. It means that as a human being, I am evolving more deeply than I ever have before. It means I am evolving in ways I never thought I would evolve. I’m experiencing new things, new feeling and new emotions.
Change is great, but we have such a negative association to the word. You cannot change a person, but you can show them how to grow. When someone doesn’t want to grow and make changes, that is a person who is going to miss out on a lot in life.
I am very different than what I was 22 years ago. I want to constantly keep evolving.
Perhaps if we used the word “evolve” instead of “change,” more people would be open to it. Everyone needs to get rid of the negative connotation to the word change.
When you’re in a relationship with yourself or with someone else, you should not ever change for someone but you should evolve with them (and for them). When you evolve, you grow.
When you refuse to change, you become stagnant. When you are stagnant, you get the same lousy relationships with yourself and with other people over and over again.
It’s something that all of us need to learn. We need to learn how to embrace growth and change, because it’s a wonderful thing.
Think about it in sports terms. Look at Eric Mangini. He is a terrible coach because he hasn’t changed his ways at all. He’s young. He’s stupid.
He acts like he wants to be Bill Belichick. He thinks he is Bill Belichick, but yet he hasn’t learned, grown, or changed his losing attitude. He’s carried his same losing ways from the Jets to Cleveland.
In life, you must learn from experiences and change. Change is good. Change means evolving. Change means that you are willing to see things through the eyes of another person.
All of us have messages for each other. I am just a messenger for a lot of you, here to teach you some lessons. The lesson this time? Realize how powerful change can be.
Source: www.seduction-chronicles.net
Learning To Be Funny To Attract Women
Learning To Be Funny To Attract Women
It’s a hard deal learning to be “funny”. Women love it though. On their online dating profiles, near every single one says “I need a guy with a sense of humor”. It’s true, they want it. But you need keep a balance between humor, sexual tension and being quiet…
For me personally, I’ve always been relatively funny guy. I haven’t needed much guidance in this area. However, I did need to make my jokes and improv much more concise and less… attention-seeking. Seem strange? How can someone be out their to make people laugh and not an attention whore? Well, it takes practice, and not trying too hard.
So I did three things:
1. Read Comedy Writing Secrets
This book might be one of the most valuable reads I’ve done. You get funnier just be reading it. No joke. Seriously.
2. Watch Funny Shows
This might not be a stretch for many people, and it wasn’t for me. Depending on your existing “type” of natural humor that you have, consider watching the opposite kind if you find your humor to be too extreme in one way. My friend was all over self-depreciating humor. He had it down. So, I told him to watch It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia, which is much more arrogant, cocky, and the cast are in their own world. If you’re naturally arrogant, then try something more subtle like the Colbert Report, the Office is also good for situational humor. Watch and learn, don’t watch and zone out.
3. Get Over Yourself
The first thing a improv comedian told me, is that you need to “get over yourself”. Don’t worry about the consequences, just roll with them if they turn “bad”. Most of the time people are so self-absorbed that if the joke doesn’t hit, they don’t hold it against you. If you are not awkward about your joke, then typically they only remember the funny ones.
One of the best things you can do – and you’ve heard it a hundred times – is to take an improv class. This sharpens your senses and in the moment reflexes.
Humor is a valuable tool in seduction, and I’ve barely scratched the surface. A good tool, that I bought early on, to learn humor as it applies to flirting is in the Cocky Comedy (cocky and funny) program that David DeAngelo released.
Source: www.seduction-chronicles.net
It’s a hard deal learning to be “funny”. Women love it though. On their online dating profiles, near every single one says “I need a guy with a sense of humor”. It’s true, they want it. But you need keep a balance between humor, sexual tension and being quiet…
For me personally, I’ve always been relatively funny guy. I haven’t needed much guidance in this area. However, I did need to make my jokes and improv much more concise and less… attention-seeking. Seem strange? How can someone be out their to make people laugh and not an attention whore? Well, it takes practice, and not trying too hard.
So I did three things:
1. Read Comedy Writing Secrets
This book might be one of the most valuable reads I’ve done. You get funnier just be reading it. No joke. Seriously.
2. Watch Funny Shows
This might not be a stretch for many people, and it wasn’t for me. Depending on your existing “type” of natural humor that you have, consider watching the opposite kind if you find your humor to be too extreme in one way. My friend was all over self-depreciating humor. He had it down. So, I told him to watch It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia, which is much more arrogant, cocky, and the cast are in their own world. If you’re naturally arrogant, then try something more subtle like the Colbert Report, the Office is also good for situational humor. Watch and learn, don’t watch and zone out.
3. Get Over Yourself
The first thing a improv comedian told me, is that you need to “get over yourself”. Don’t worry about the consequences, just roll with them if they turn “bad”. Most of the time people are so self-absorbed that if the joke doesn’t hit, they don’t hold it against you. If you are not awkward about your joke, then typically they only remember the funny ones.
One of the best things you can do – and you’ve heard it a hundred times – is to take an improv class. This sharpens your senses and in the moment reflexes.
Humor is a valuable tool in seduction, and I’ve barely scratched the surface. A good tool, that I bought early on, to learn humor as it applies to flirting is in the Cocky Comedy (cocky and funny) program that David DeAngelo released.
Source: www.seduction-chronicles.net
How To Be The Man Every Woman Wants
How To Be The Man Every Woman Wants
I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.
When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.
Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.
But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:
It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.
It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.
I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.
It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.
Here’s what my realization was:
The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.
The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.
In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.
But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.
At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.
It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.
Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.
WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.
This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:
These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…
…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.
Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.
In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.
He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!
Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.
It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.
It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.
I could go on and on about it, but if you’re interested in learning more about this key, then go here and read THIS:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan (New Window)
I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.
Talk to you in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David Deangelo
seduction-chronicles.net
I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.
When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.
Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.
But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:
It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.
It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.
I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.
It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.
Here’s what my realization was:
The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.
The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.
In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.
But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.
At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.
It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.
Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.
WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.
This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:
These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…
…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.
Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.
In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.
He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!
Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.
It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.
It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.
I could go on and on about it, but if you’re interested in learning more about this key, then go here and read THIS:
http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan (New Window)
I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.
Talk to you in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David Deangelo
seduction-chronicles.net
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